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Sunday, January 30, 2022

Persistence

"Keep at it"

seems to be the message for the day:

through thick and thin,

not discouraged by rain or snow,

sleet or storm,

like some intrepid (or demented?)

deliverer of Their Majesty's mail,

we are meant

(they say)

to persevere, persist,

to keep going in pursuit of our goal,

which I dearly hope has been freely chosen

by you (me, us)

without excessive lobbying

from representatives of the dominant culture.

 

If you (I, we) plan to hang on,

carry on,

soldier on

with sinuous tenacity toward your (my, our) goal,

may it be a worthy one,

chosen with a healthy respect for intuition

and the needs of spirit

(yours, mine, ours).

 

 

 

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Sunday, January 23, 2022

Aging in Space

My friend X, who lives in a retirement community an hour outside of Toronto, has become very worried about her mental competence. Her slide into dementia. X and I talk every Tuesday morning at 9, a standing appointment that is important to both of us. On a recent Tuesday when I dialed her number I got the answering machine (always a disconcerting event since the recording was made by her husband, who died two years ago). I left her a message but didn't hear back.

 

Mid-afternoon I said, "I'll call X again to be sure she's okay." By late afternoon I hadn't called her because I kept forgetting. After dinner I said, "I'll email X before I go to bed, just to be in touch." But I kept forgetting and went to bed without emailing her.

 

At 8 the next morning I did email her, and at 9 she called me. She's fine (one never knows these days, do one?). We set up a phone call for a later time so we could have a long chat. Whether we'll both remember this appointment is open to question.

 

Because the bigger question is this: which of us is fading faster? X forgot our call originally, but I spent the rest of that day forgetting to call her. How far apart are we along that slippery slope? If she were to stop suddenly I'd slide right into her because not much space separates us.

 

My older brother is 87, and contemplating that reminds me of the mystery author whose operative is a female detective in California. Sharon McClure? And is that the author or the op? Or a different author? One uses book titles that have gone through the alphabet: A Is for Axe-Murderer; B is for Burglary; and so forth (those titles are just examples; neither is real).

 

Anyway, what has stayed in my mind is that the op—I'll call her Sharon—rents a small apartment from an 85-year-old man who is one of four brothers. In the books the brothers are all alive, ranging from, say, 94 to 84. Three of them live in Chicago (I may be making this up) and occasionally come to visit the California brother. I was always struck, as I read these novels, by the imaginative insertion of these fine old guys. They were peripheral to the narrative, of course, but brought a sense of the fullness of late life.

 

So that brought me back to thoughts of family. Now, as we begin 2022, my siblings and I are 87, 85, 83, 80, and 72 (Sari, had she not died too soon, would be 81). We'd make a lively set to include in a mystery series if anyone's interested. But catch us soon, while we're all still lucid. We're aging.

 

 

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Sunday, January 16, 2022

Fabric

The fabric of my life has many threads. There's the warp, those long strands that encompass the whole length of the life. And then there is the weft, crosspieces that intersect with the warp and form a solid fabric on which ride the elaborations and enrichments and embroideries of my difference.

 

I've never thought of my life this way before. The warp, you know, can be as drab or as colourful as you wish (let's not burden this new thought with details such as who warped the loom in the first place. Or who is the weaver passing the shuttle of the weft over and under, over and under.) Let's instead think of the variety of threads that can be woven through this process. Glistening silk, tough and shining, holding colour so brightly. Or perhaps my warp is woollen, shorn and carded, spun and twisted, dyed to please me. The warp doesn't have to be a single kind of thread but can combine them all, a variegated warp open to every possibility on the journey. And whatever its makeup, its appearance changes once the weft is woven through it, pulling the perhaps random variations of colour and texture into a multicoloured plaid. What a work of art is fabric. What a work of art is the fabric of my life. Our lives.

 

Do I have time to ornament it? Sequins, beads, faceted jewels, one-of-a-kind buttons. Shining embroidery threads to create rows and waves of flowers. Gardens of colour. More. More. More decorations.

 

Look! This lovely length of colour is turning into song. The melody rises, dissonance melding into assonance after sharpening the ear, pointing the senses. The song of the fabric rises, mixing metaphors with abandon, and the weave of my life shimmers still with possibility.

 

 
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Sunday, January 9, 2022

Happiness and the Black Dog; Scenes from the Journey, vol. 19, no. 2

Whence cometh depression?

That black dog presents itself

as the permanent face of your present

and your future.

Chemical? Emotional?

A response to trauma?

Whatever valid reason there is for the black dog's arrival,

can we hope that

his continued presence is not inevitable?

 

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps?

No, that doesn't work.

The key

(like many things, simple but not easy)

is to remove your gaze

from the beauties of your navel

and thus expand your vision to the world beyond,

the life beyond,

the merging of life in the golden threads of the network,

the matrix,

the melding of all life into one stream.

If you find this difficult

(though still simple),

you can act as if:

fake it till you make it.

 

 

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Sunday, January 2, 2022

Here We Are

So this is happiness. This moment: stomach growling because of the silly (and apparently pointless) Intermittent Fasting, the promise of freshly made rye bread for lunch (a promise made more vivid by the dying-yeast aroma filling the house at this very moment); the awareness of problems, potential problems, insoluble problems in the lives of family and friends, acquaintances and strangers. What can I say but—This Is Life? And having said that, in light of the alternative lurking in the wings, even I have to admit that This Is Happiness.

 

So, because I am who I am, let me return to that rye bread. A new book came in, a tiny little thing about sourdough rye bread. It's a bit twee (the author refers to the starter as "he" and is pretty insistent that you give him a name—I'd say that's twee). Nonetheless, it captured me, so I ground up rye berries in the grain-grinding attachment of my fifty-year-old KitchenAid mixer and I followed the instructions for making my own rye starter. This will exist alongside my current, regular, white-flour starter—which doesn't have a name. The rye starter, which obediently followed the schedule and turned light and airy within three days, has been named Dolly, after Dolly Parton. I have never in my life given a name to an inanimate object, the way some people regularly name their cars, but I was apparently quite happy to override my principles and call my rye sourdough Dolly.

 

Then I made the bread. What had seemed slightly eccentric when I read through the recipe the first time (well, perhaps very eccentric when you consider the way the author anthropomorphizes the dough at every stage), it wasn't until I actually started following his instructions that I began having doubts. I persevered and I have a loaf cooling, waiting to be sliced, though the author assures me it will be even better if I wait another day before cutting it. But I got up at 6 to put the final touches on the loaf, so by golly we're eating some of it for lunch.

 

What he does wrong: 1) he adds salt too early and then wants you to save a portion of that salted dough for your next loaf. In other words, he contaminates the starter, which is a sourdough no-no, as I have always understood it. 2) After a first 12-hour rising of the dough, you put the whole thing together: 2 cups boiling water (what?!), a bit more salt, 2 cups rye flour, and the 12-hour dough batch. Really? Boiling water? Won't that kill the yeast of the starter? Does this man know anything? 3) If your dough survives the boiling water, you will notice as you beat it that it is almost a batter rather than a dough. Very moist. At this stage you beat it for five minutes (you can't knead it because it's too wet) and then you let it rise for an hour.

 

Then you shape it, putting it onto a thick layer of (rye) flour, he says. Thick indeed. It took three cups of added flour before it would form a loaf.

 

Let it rise again, then bake at 450 for 65 minutes (really? That long at that high a temperature?). Then leave it in a cooling oven for another five to ten minutes.

 

So what I have (and what we will have for lunch) is a fairly heavy loaf with what looks like a thick, hard crust—not a bad thing in itself, though I will be cautious as I cut it, wary that the knife might slip. Will it be edible? Or will I have to turn it into croutons?

 

The point is this. Making the dough was happiness. Writing about it here was happiness. Who are you, Ms. Serenity, and what have you done with Eeyore?

 
 
 
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